Gottman Method
Couples Therapy

Q: Can couples therapy help after an affair?

Yes — and research specifically backs this up. Gottman Method has been shown to outperform standard approaches for affair recovery on every meaningful measure: trust, conflict resolution, relational satisfaction, and intimacy. It requires a clear framework and a therapist who can hold both people without taking sides. That's exactly what this work is built for.

Q: What if we're not sure whether to stay together?

That uncertainty is a legitimate reason to come in, not a reason to wait. Sometimes the work is figuring out whether to repair, recommit, or separate — and understanding what each path would actually require. I can help you slow that down and get clear.

Q: What happens in the first session?

We start with where things actually are — not a lengthy intake process. I'll get a picture of the pattern you're in, what you've already tried, and what you're hoping for. You'll leave with a clearer sense of what we're working on and how.

Q: How does online couples therapy work?

Sessions are conducted via Zoom — secure, straightforward, and flexible. Most clients find it easier than in-person logistics, and the quality of the work is the same. You'll need a private space and a reliable connection.

Q: How does insurance reimbursement work?

I'm out of network, which means you pay the session fee directly. Nicole, my practice manager, handles out-of-network claim submission through Reimbursify — a free tool that files on your behalf. Most clients receive 40–60% back depending on their plan. Nicole can check your specific benefits before your first session.

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For couples who know their pattern. And can't stop repeating it.

You're probably already exhausted by it — the same argument, the same silence, the same distance that neither person knows how to close. Whether it shows up as open conflict, mutual withdrawal, or something more acute like a breach of trust — you've tried addressing it, and you keep ending up in the same place.

That's not a communication problem. That's a cycle — and cycles don't break on their own.

I won't let our sessions become relationship autopsies. We'll figure out what's actually happening, build skills you can use right away, and measure whether they're working. Here's what I know: there are two truths in every relationship. Until both partners accept that, you'll keep fighting battles that go nowhere.

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Does Any of This Sound Familiar?

You've stopped sharing openly because it doesn't seem worth the fight

During disagreements, you escalate fast — or go completely quiet

You've experienced a betrayal or erosion of trust that keeps resurfacing

You both know exactly how the argument will go before it starts — and it happens anyway

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What Makes This Different

Most couples who've tried therapy before describe a version of the same experience: a lot of talking, a lot of processing, and not much that actually changed. That's not always a therapist failure — it's often a method problem.

The Gottman Method — in which I hold Level 3 Practicum Training — is different because it's built on something most therapy approaches aren't: four decades of actual research into what makes relationships work and what makes them fall apart. Not theory, but observed couples, tracked over time, with measurable outcomes. What that research produced was a precise map of the patterns that predict whether a relationship survives — and specific tools designed to interrupt the ones that don't.

In practice, that means we're not guessing. We know what we're looking for, we know how to address it, and we can measure whether it's working. Clinical trials back this up — Gottman Method consistently outperforms standard approaches, and the gains hold a year out.

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Affair Recovery and Infidelity

Some of the couples I work with are here because something happened — a betrayal, a slow erosion of trust — and they're not sure the relationship can come back from it, but they're not ready to give up.

This is some of the most demanding work in couples therapy. It requires a clear framework, a therapist who can hold both people without choosing, and enough directness to move through what actually happened — not around it. Research backs this up — Gottman Method has been shown to outperform standard approaches for affair recovery specifically, on every meaningful measure: trust, conflict, relational satisfaction, and intimacy.

If that's where you are, reach out.

For Premarital Couples

The patterns that cause problems later are usually visible before the wedding. Premarital work isn't about fixing something broken — it's about building what the Gottmans call a Sound Relationship House before the pressure hits, rather than after.

When the Goal Is Clarity, Not Just Repair

Not every couple arrives knowing they want to save the relationship. Sometimes one partner has just discovered an affair. Someone is considering leaving. Or both of you need to understand what repair would actually require before committing to it.

This is real work I do — helping couples slow down a time-sensitive situation and get clear about what each path would actually mean. It's structured, honest, and built for the moment when the stakes feel highest.

If that's where you are, reach out.

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Frequently Asked Questions

What does Gottman Method Level 3 training mean?

Level 3 is advanced clinical practicum training — the most hands-on level the Institute offers before full certification. It involves submitting real session recordings for expert review and working through complex cases in small groups. It's where the method goes from concept to actual clinical precision.

Can couples therapy help after an affair?

What if we're not sure whether to stay together?

What happens in the first session?

How does online couples therapy work?

How does insurance reimbursement work?

All Welcome

Who I Work With

Every kind of couple — heterosexual and same-sex, married and unmarried, premarital and long-married. If there's a pattern running in the relationship, that's where I work.

Ready When You Are

Ready to Stop Repeating the Pattern?

Reach out. My practice manager will get you scheduled and we'll get to work.

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